Is it just me or are you still in shock that it’s December and the holidays are just a few weeks away?
This is our second season back in Canada after spending a few tropical winters in Houston and right now it’s snowing outside—the big, fluffy snowy flakes (something I missed down south) and it’s really amping up my holiday spirit!
But as excited as I am for this time of year (it’s my favourite holiday) I’m starting to feel the stress and anxiety that this season brings which is why I wrote this post to share a few quick tips (or reminders) to help you have a happy hustle-free holiday so you can connect with what matters and truly enjoy it.
I know you’re probably thinking...is there such a thing as a hustle-free holiday?
The answer is, yes! I believe there is but with the busyness of the holidays, it’s easy to lose touch with what’s really important and sometimes we just need a little reminder.
But before we dive into how you can have a happy hustle-free holiday just remember that the stress and pressure we feel around this time of year is often self-induced.
That’s why I want to give you a few quick reminders to help keep things in perspective and to invite more ease and flow into your already busy life and biz.
Get clear about what matters to YOU
Grab a pen and paper and make a list of 5 to 10 things that matter most to you during the holidays. Focus on the meaningful things, the stuff that brings you joy, peace and happiness—and remember—this isn’t about setting an expectation and making sure that every tiny detail goes according to plan or that everyone fits into the mould of your ideal holiday. Everyone’s definition of happiness and their idea of what’s important is going to be unique to them.
Now that you have a list of what’s important to YOU create a list of actions you can take to create it.
What thoughts or beliefs do you have right now that prevent you from creating a peaceful, happy holiday? What can you do differently to ensure you have fun, relax and make time for what’s truly important?
Let go of expectation
I’ve touched on this a little in the above point but it’s really an important one to make because expectation can turn a happy occasion sour faster than you can say “pass the cranberry, please!”.
You’ll be setting yourself up for disaster if you set expectations that can’t be met. You can’t control the actions of others, you can only control your own. When you feel your expectations are not being met, focus on the first point—what’s important so you can shift your focus back to the things that matter.
Give yourself permission to NOT be perfect or get it all done
I’m naturally a very detailed person so this one always hits close to home for me. I seem to notice everything and I mean ev.ry.thing! But wanting every last detail to be perfect creates a lot of pressure and unnecessary stress...not to mention it’s exhausting!
So if you find yourself agonizing over every tiny detail until it's absolutely perfect, you’ve just got to tell yourself, “hey, it’s good enough”...because it is.
The truth is, perfectionism stems from a belief that we're not good enough. We need to show others that we are good enough so we waste precious time trying to prove it.
One of my favourite quotes to illustrate this point is by Brene Brown who says:
I’d like to add that it’s one of the things preventing us from being happy, too.
Here’s something to try the next time your mind starts thinking that something isn’t good enough:
Take a deep breath and repeat this affirmation in your head or aloud ten times or feel free to create your own.
I always do my best and my best is good enough.
I borrowed that affirmation from Mastin Kipp, founder of The Daily Love and I love it because it’s saying, “hey, just do your best” and that’s good enough.
So if you can’t get it all done (the baking, the decorating, the cleaning or the end-of-year filing) then do what you can and let the rest go so you can relax and enjoy!
Ask for help
As a recovering control-enthusiast (it’s so much nicer when it’s said that way, isn’t it?), I know how hard it can be to ask for help but it’s essential for creating a happy hustle-free holiday and probably something you don’t do enough.
Sometimes we expect (there we go with our expectations again) others to know what we want or need when instead they just need to hear it.
Don’t assume that your friends, family or colleagues know what you need. You can save yourself a lot of time and frustration by asking for help and don’t take it personally if they say “no”.
Take frequent breaks
Have you heard of the Pomodoro method? Megan Minns recently did a video on how she plans her ideal day to get more done. In that video, she talked about the Pomodoro technique, a time management method which uses a timer to break down work into intervals (typically 25 minutes in length) separated by short breaks.
Pretty genius, right? Since the holidays can be pretty hectic and filled with a whole lotta hustle, schedule each task and do it for 25-minutes followed by a 5-minute break to rest & recharge.
Choose to be happy
When it comes right down to it, happiness is a choice. Regardless of what happens over the holidays, it’s probably true that you already have so much to be grateful for. Do your best to connect with and look for those things that bring you joy and make you happy. It’s really that simple.
Hold your hand on your heart and declare it now:
I will have a happy hustle-free holiday.
Deeeeeep breath in, exhale out. #yougotthis
So that’s it! I’d love to hear what your best tips are for a happy hustle-free holiday! So leave a comment below to tell me how you plan to have a happy hustle-free holiday.
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